7 Unhealthy Habits of Unhappy People.
I ran across an article that discussed why people are unhappy with their lives. It made allot of sense so I thought I would share it with you.
1. I BELIEVE THAT LIFE IS UNFAIR.
I look to blame others , or life itself for my problems. I complain about the way things are, and stay stuck in self-pity. I am a victim.
2. I HAVE A GENERAL BELIEF THAT PEOPLE CANNOT BE TRUSTED.
Because some people may have done me wrong at some point in my life, my initial response towards others is that they are untrustworthy. I have a guilty conscious about my own untrustworthy behavior, and I think that others act the same way I do.
3. I CONCENTRATE ON WHAT IS WRONG INSTEAD OF WHAT IS RIGHT.
I turn a blind eye to positive things and choose to focus on the negative. I spot mistakes and problems from a mile away, while I ignore the positive things in my life.
4. I COMPARE MYSELF TO OTHERS AND HARBOR JEALOUSY.
I believe that the good fortune of others or their positive qualities take away from my own. I build resentment and jealousy when I see others do well.
5. I REQUIRE CONTROL.
I try to micromanage everything around me in order to control all outcomes. I want to look good all of the time. I want to minimize my mistakes and negative behaviors.
6. I WORRY ABOUT EVERYTHING.
I focus on everything that can go wrong. I live in worry and fear about the future.
7. I FILL CONVERSATIONS WITH GOSSIP AND COMPLAINTS.
I live in the past and focus on mistakes, failures and the poor decisions of everyone around me.
At some point in my life, I have held one or all of the above mentioned beliefs. I am working on challenging these unhealthy thoughts to live a happier life. Can you identify with any?
In my next blog, I will discuss how happy people challenge unhealthy thoughts.
Ken Flaska
